First of all, I would like to have a moment of acknowledgement for all the events that have transpired since my last blog. From Barack’s historic win and inauguration to the new year to everything else, I would like to take this moment to give a nod to it all.
This blog is one that I type amidst great confusion and uneasiness. I go through things and I talk to people about the things they’re going through. I listen to the things that happen and the things I witness that involve friends and how dealings with these friends have lead to unsavory outcomes. I have come to the conclusion that we, in most cases, whore out the term/label of “friend”.
It seems, in most cases, as though two people (particularly of opposing genders) are only allowed to have 5 labels: unknown, friend, boy/girlfriend, fiance, husband/wife. Of these, the “friend” label seems to be the most ambiguous and cover the most ground. To some, a friend is someone who will provide favors for them with little to no resistance, while others regard a friend as someone whose name and face they know. The title is thrown around like a rag doll and people are allowed to read into it what they will, and that’s not always a good thing.
This complication takes it even FURTHER up the wazoo when the two parties involved are attracted to one another. The term friend gets pretzled into a myriad things to validate the party’s motives, because platonicism isn’t allowed to exist. Self control and balance seem to be out of the scope of possibility, and I, for one, am clueless as to why. When did we hit a point where people HAVE TO always make sense to us, or they cease to be valid? Is it REALLY my place to put my seal of approval on a relationship that has NOTHING to do with me? Even more, why seek the approval/acceptance from people who have nothing to do with me and who I’m with?
I wanna go back to the days when being a friend MEANT something. Being lumped in the gray area of “not someone I hate, but not someone I love” helps nobody, because if you care about where you stand, you have no idea where you stand (I hope that makes sense!).
-B
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