Essence, Ebony, Cosmo, Mademoiselle. All these fashion/lifestyle magazines that preach about how to make a man do this/that, how to tell what a man is thinking/doing, etc. Women adhering to the messages ad conclusions sent out, with the intent of getting/keeping a man. I believe that this frame of mind not only leads down a course of action that in most cases DOESN’T work (told to me by the women who read these articles), but it promotes a frame of mind that is less honest with herself and promotes people pleasing.
I’m a firm believer that you know how you operate better than anybody on Earth. No matter who you are and how much we aspire to become better, we will never become perfect. I also believe that if you are dealing with someone, the best way to deal with other people is the best way you can, all while being honest with yourself. Allowing a magazine to find different ways of attempting to mail the same message every month in different envelopes serves to not only confuse, but to disallusion.
Even greater than that, I think the greatest problem comes in when dealing with the man you have your eyes on. If you are completely changing yourself and you habits based on a 2 page article in a magazine to get a man, what will happen when you get him? Do you stop what got you there, or do you keep the charade going? What happens when magazine advice conflicts with another mag? What do you do when you get yourself deep, and the man throws a curve not covered in the article?
I think the statistics and tests in these magazines do more harm than help. Yes, the magazines have a rich cultural history, and yes, the advice in the mags can be somewhat useful to open ur eyes, but again, moderation is key. Too many people look for a quick fix in these articles, and of course, those sand castles wash away. Bottom line, belief in yourself will outweigh multiple choice personality and compatibility tests.
-B
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